I find it entertaining that I'm either talking to ZERO boys or trying to balance a juggling act and have to bust out my Excel Spreadsheet to keep them all straight. If one guy and I start talking, then there's three more like him that follow so closely behind.
Each time I contimplate deactivating my online dating profiles, I will get an email from a guy who seems interesting... or interesting enough to entertain me for the time being... or giving me the attention I'm craving at the time. Whichever the case, I went from not talking to a single guy (except for the awkward enounters with the stalkers at the bar, but the two most threatening don't have my number so that barely counts) to now toggling back and forth with a few.
Here's the lowdown:
Steelers Boy: before my ex and i started dating - approximately 5 years ago (*sidebar: we broke up a solid year ago. and fyi... he's not one that I'd care to bring up in this blog... yet), I was on Match. I talked to this guy through emails but never wound up meeting in person. We both started dating our respective ex's and went our separate ways. Well over the summer, he found me online and sent me an email: "Beth, is that you? Do you remember me?" I didn't, and said so, but then he refreshed my memory and so it went. On and off through the summer we talked but still never got together. He then told me he was talking to another girl and wanted to see where it was going. Fine by me: he hadn't blown my skirt up anyways.
Fast forward a month or two, he texts me, we get to chatting, and now I think i might give him a chance to prove that he is a decent guy. He also mentioned yesterday: "I just look at ur pics n I'm like I wanna make out w her lol". That's always nice to hear. But buy me dinner first, buddy, and then we'll talk logistics. *By the way: he made it clear that he is looking for a girl to go out and have fun with, and if it turns into a relationship, that's great. I clarified that if I did the same with him and other guys he wouldn't have a problem with it... This might be a great situation if it works out!* We have tentative plans to go out one night next week.
Substitute Teacher: Saw his profile online a couple weeks ago, thought he was cute, but never sent a message. He sent me one this weekend, we got to talking back and forth via email for about an hour before I gave in and gave him my number. For the first 48 hours, there hasn't been a single lull in our text conversation and he's called me twice. He's funny (sent me a picture of his 6'2" shadow as I had questioned his height the night before), witty (throws movie quotes appropriately into conversation), and quite forward with his flirty messages (no need for an example here). We have plans to get dinner tomorrow night.
Security Guy: Right off the bat, I can tell he's way more into me than I am him. He's a (cute) meatball who lives in Brooklyn, does security at clubs as well as an overnight gig at a foodstore "for the benefits". Already this doesn't seem logical as he doesn't have a car and our schedules are completely opposite. Nothing has been set up yet to meet, but I have a feeling that by him not having a car can make this tricky. Hope he likes taking the train directly into Morristown!
Other than that, I have one other guy I've literally talked to on and off for over seven years. Back when MySpace was cool (and basically an online dating site in itself), we started talking during my years at Rowan. He's a couple years older than me and lives in Red Bank. He has a job, a car, and a fun personality. However, what he doesn't have is a set of balls to give him the guts to come see me. We have this discussion each time we speak. He even comes to Morristown once in a while for work - no excuses! I got this message the beginning of January: "I was in Florham Park last night walking out of our holiday party and I had my phone out to text you to see if you wanted to meet up. But then I pussied out, got in my car, and drove home." He has also mentioned to me a time he was out with friends and a married buddy of his was saying how he regretted not getting with this one girl before he met his wife. Mr. No-Balls then shared with his buddies that there was a girl he used to talk to that always asked him to come visit her at Rowan and he never did - and he still regrets it. I tell him that he still has a chance, but ya never know for how much longer. We got into it Monday, agreeing that whatever happens with him coming to visit me, that we owe it to ourselves to at least get a drink and go from there. We'll see if this happens...
Never know how any of these stories will end, but here's the opening chapters of each. If i had to bet on it, I'd think it wont work out with Steeler Boy, Sub Teacher will be ok for a bit, but then I'll lose interest, Security Guy is too much effort already, and Mr. No-Balls will continue his life without a set of brass ones. Who's gonna bet against me?
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